Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
IRVIN D. YALOMThere is some evidence, for example, that those who enter the death-related professions (soldiers, doctors, priests, and morticians) may in part be motivated by a need to obtain control over death anxiety.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion.
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If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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Were not teaching our students the importance of relationships with other people: how you work with them, what the relational pathology consists of, how you examine your own conscience, how you examine the inner world, how you examine your dreams.
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Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one’s germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
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Live right, he reminded himself, and have faith that good things will flow from you even if you never learn of them.
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I thought a lot about how someone very old is the last living individual to have known some person or cluster of people.
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This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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When people don’t have any curiosity about themselves, that is always a bad sign.
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I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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