Our homes do not have to offer us permanent occupancy or store our clothes to merit the name. To speak of home in relation to a building is simply to recognise its harmony with our own prized internal song. Home can be an airport or a library, a garden or a motorway diner.
ALAIN DE BOTTONAlthough I don’t believe in God, Bach’s music shows me what a love of God must feel like.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Cynics are – beneath it all – only idealists with awkwardly high standards.
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Not everyone is worth listening to.
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Memory is… similar to anticipation: an instrument of simplification and selection.
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As an atheist, I think there are lots of things religions get up to which are of value to non-believers – and one of those things is trying to be a bit better than we normally manage to be.
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Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.
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Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.
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We will cease to be angry once we cease to be so hopeful.
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In their different ways, art and philosophy help us, in Schopenhauer’s words, to turn pain into knowledge.
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Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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Arguments are like eels: however logical, they may slip from the minds weak grasp unless fixed there by imagery and style.
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What should worry us is not the number of people that oppose us, but how good their reasons are for doing so.
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Good books put a finger on emotions that are deeply our own – but that we could never have described on our own.
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When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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We are presented with an unpleasant choice between either committing to peculiar concepts about immaterial deities or letting go entirely of a host of consoling, subtle or just charming rituals for which we struggle to find equivalents in secular society.
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