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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.

Alain de Botton

William James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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Acute Between Endeavour Expectation Happiness Made Point Relationship
In a secularising world, art has replaced religion as a touchstone of our reverence and devotion.
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Devotion Religion replace Reverence Secular Touchstone World
Maturity: knowing where you’re crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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Control Crazy Know Maturity Try Under
I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
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Emotional End Feeling Married People Powerful Uncertain
We need objects to remind us of the commitments we’ve made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we’re in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
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Carpet Commitment Freedom Impulsive Need Object Remind
Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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Anger End Fear Feel Most Receive Remember Weakness
As adults, we try to develop the character traits that would have rescued our parents.
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Adult Character Develop Parent Rescue Trait
Yet often, they know but just don’t care. So the task of serious journalism isn’t just to lay out truths. It is to make vital truths compelling to a big audience.
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Audience Big Compell Truth Vital
At the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure: the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality.
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Basic Collision Every Frustration Heart Structure
One’s doing well if age improves even slightly one’s capacity to hold on to that vital truism: “This too shall pass.
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Age Capacity Do Hold Improve One Pass Shall Slightly
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Absolute Afford Desire Grow Relative Something Time Wealth
We each appear to hold within ourselves a range of divergent views as to our native qualities.. And amid such uncertainty, we typically turn to the wider world to settle the question of our significance.. we seem beholden to affections of others to endure ourselves.
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Amid Appear Divergent Each Hold Native Ourselves Quality Range Such Uncertainty View
So many complaints boil down to the belly ache of the fragile, mortal, ignored ego in a vast and indifferent universe.
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Ache Belly Complaint Down Ego Fragile Ignore Universe
The problem is if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you’ll also, by implication … believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there.
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Belief Implication Merit Problem Really Society Top
The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
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Depend Happy Look Only Realise Thing Way

Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.

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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.

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