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To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.

Alain de Botton

Newspapers are being read all around. The point is not, of course, to glean new information, but rather to coax the mind out of its sleep-induced introspective temper.
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All Round Coax Information Mind Newspaper Out Post Rather Read
It’s hard loving those who don’t much like themselves: “If you’re so great, why would you think I’m so great.
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Great Hate Live Long Themselves
A notorious inability to express emotions makes human beings the only animals capable of suicide.
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Animal Capable Emotion Express Human Inability Notorious Suicide Time
Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.
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Before Blend Define Joy Melancholy Perfection Sadness Sear
People only get really interesting when they start to rattle the bars of their cages.
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Bar Cage Interest People Rattle Really Start
Social media has lots of benefits, but compared to Christianity, it tends to group people by interests. Religion puts you with people who have nothing in common except that you’re human.
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Benefit Community Compare Interest Media Religious Social
William James once made an acute point about the relationship between happiness and expectation. He argued that satisfaction with ourselves does not require us to succeed in every endeavour.
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Acute Between Endeavour Expectation Happiness Made Point Relationship
When work is not going well, it’s useful to remember that our identities stretch beyond what is on the business card, that we were people long before we became workers – and will continue to be human once we have put our tools down forever.
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Being Business Card Go Remember Useful Well Work
Happiness is impossible for longer than 15 minutes. We are the descendants of creatures who, above all else, worried.
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Above Creature Descendant Happiness Impossible Longer Minute Worry
The mind does most of its best thinking when we aren’t there. The answers are there in the morning.
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Answer Best Mind Morning Think
I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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Day General Life Optimistic Person Pessimistic Take Terrific Thing
Cynics are – beneath it all – only idealists with awkwardly high standards.
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Awkward Beneath Cynic High Idealist Standard
In the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.
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Anxiety Between Day Gap Humiliation One Present Wish
It is perhaps sad books that best console us when we are sad.
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Book Console Perhaps Sad
How generous was it to offer gifts to people one knew would never accept them?
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Accept Generous Gift never Offer People
Must being in love always mean being in pain?
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Always Being Love Must Pain

To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.

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To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.

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