Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWhat am I supposed to do here? What am I supposed to think?
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Good books put a finger on emotions that are deeply our own – but that we could never have described on our own.
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People only get really interesting when they start to rattle the bars of their cages.
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Only by declaring a book completely finished can one start to see how much remains to be done on it.
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The mind may be reluctant to think properly when thinking is all it is supposed to do; the task can be as paralysing as having to tell a joke or mimic an accent on demand.
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We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
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The pleasure we derive from journeys is perhaps dependent more on the mindset with which we travel than on the destination we travel to.
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We will cease to be angry once we cease to be so hopeful.
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We often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
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Although I don’t believe in God, Bach’s music shows me what a love of God must feel like.
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In their different ways, art and philosophy help us, in Schopenhauer’s words, to turn pain into knowledge.
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I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
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All tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
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A successful work will draw out the features capable of exciting a sense of beauty and interest in the spectator.
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Intuition is unconscious accumulated experience informing judgement in real time.
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Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.
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