If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there’s an arrow in your heart.
PEMA CHODRONIf someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there’s an arrow in your heart.
PEMA CHODRONI can’t overestimate the importance of accepting ourselves exactly as we are right now, not as we wish we were or think we ought to be.
PEMA CHODRONThe truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.
PEMA CHODRONWhen we resist change, it’s called suffering. But when we can completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can embrace the groundlessness of our situation and relax into it’s dynamic quality, that’s called enlightenment.
PEMA CHODRONFeelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back.
PEMA CHODRONOpenness doesn’t come from resisting our fears but rather from getting to know them well.
PEMA CHODRONIn the end, that’s what we all need more than anything else: to be there for each other, in every kind of situation.
PEMA CHODRONOne of the deepest habitual patterns that we have is to feel that now is not enough.
PEMA CHODRONIt isn’t what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it’s what we say to ourselves about what happens.
PEMA CHODRONThe essence of generosity is letting go. Pain is always a sign that we are holding on to something – usually ourselves.
PEMA CHODRONLet your curiosity be greater than your fear.
PEMA CHODRONUse what seems like poison as medicine. Use your personal suffering as the path to compassion for all beings.
PEMA CHODRONWhen things fall apart in your life, you feel as if your whole world is crumbling. But actually it’s your fixed identity that’s crumbling. And as Chögyam Trungpa used to tell us, that’s cause for celebration.
PEMA CHODRONIn meditation, you learn how to get out of your own way long enough for there to be room for your wisdom to manifest.
PEMA CHODRONThe future is completely open and we are writing it moment to moment.
PEMA CHODRONSticking with that uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic-this is the spiritual path.
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