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When you don’t show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you’re not. Then when they find out who you are, that’s when they leave.

Iyanla Vanzant

It is not what you hear, it is where you listen from within yourself that gives meaning to the message.
IYANLA VANZANT

Deep Listening Need Yourself
If someone has offended you, insulted you, or disappointed you, let it go! If you are remembering all the ways you have been hurt or forgotten, let it go! Ask yourself, what good does it do for me to hold on to this?
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Disappoint Forget Goodness Insult Let Go Remember Yourself
If you don’t ask for what you need, the need will keep getting bigger.
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Big Need Yourself
It is not your duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. The nature of their thinking is advanced or limited by their experience. In your presence, they have an opportunity to learn about you and, perhaps, to grow.
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Change Experience Growth Learning Limitation Mindset Opportunity Responsibility Thinking
You will stumble at time, forget what you want, fall headfirst into your old habits and beliefs. Fear not! Always remember to be patient and loving with yourself and others because that is what God does all the time.
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Belief God Habit Patience Time Yourself
Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.
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Believe Reflection Thinking Worth Yourself
You do not have to love what is going on in your life, but you must accept that it, whatever it is, is going on. As long as you do not accept reality, you are powerless to define the role you will play.
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Acceptance Life Love Play Reality Role Yourself
Challenges come so we can grow and be prepared for things we are not equipped to handle now.
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Challenge Growth Preparation Strength
Have the courage to be exactly who you are without apology. Admit your mistakes without beating yourself up. Release all shame! Release all guilt! You cannot live if you are hiding behind what was. Focus on what is, right now, and that is you!
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Courage Focus Guilty Hide Live Mistake Shame Yourself
Nothing destroys self-worth, self-acceptance and self-love faster than denying what you feel. Without feelings, you would not know where you are in life. Nor would you know what areas you need to work on. Honor your feelings. Allow yourself to feel them.
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Acceptance Destroy Feeling Life Loss Recovery Self Love Worth Yourself
Everything we experience-no matter how unpleasant-comes into our lives to teach us something.
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Experience Live Ourselves Teaching Wisdom
You have a right to your thoughts and feelings. Your feelings are always valid.
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Feeling Right Yourself
Life will let you get away with something for a while, but sooner or later, you will pay the price. Everything you do in life causes the effects that you experience. When you get the bill, be prepared to pay.
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Life Pay Preparation Price Yourself
If you should encounter angry or unkind actions today, take a deep breath, reach deep within and greet the lack of love with love.
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Action Anger Breathe Kind Love Yourself
Their issues are not your issues.
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Issues Yourself
When you can tell the story and it doesn’t bring up any pain, you know it is healed.
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Healing Pain Story Yourself

When you don’t show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you’re not. Then when they find out who you are, that’s when they leave.

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When you don’t show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you’re not. Then when they find out who you are, that’s when they leave.

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