Their issues are not your issues.
IYANLA VANZANT
IYANLA VANZANT
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We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant We set the standard of how we want to be treated. Our relationships are reflections of the relationships we have with ourselves.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Sometimes you have to lose everything in order to gain yourself.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Everything we experience-no matter how unpleasant-comes into our lives to teach us something.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Change doesn’t have to be hard, and healing doesn’t have to hurt. Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason! There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Everything you have done and been through is valuable and important. In order to be who you are, to know what you know, to be where you are in this moment, you needed to go through what you went through.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Most of us know exactly what it is that creates the pain, confusion, stagnation and disruption in our lives. When we find something or someone creating in our lives that which we do not want, we must muster the courage and strength to stop it.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Love people enough to tell them the truth and respect them enough to trust that they can handle it.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Be patient when it seems things are not going right and may never be right again. Accept that what is yours will come to you in the right way at just the right moment.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Fear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant Speak and live in simple sentences. Bring closure- put a period to- those experiences that you don’t want to carry on forever and ever. Use commas in those places where you’re still growing and use exclamation points at the end of every lesson.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant If you don’t ask for what you need, the need will keep getting bigger.
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life. You are!
Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant When you continue to give without receiving, the only thing you are proving is that you know how to be taken advantage of.
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Forgiveness comes after understanding & understanding comes after acceptance.
Tom MetcafeTom Metcafe Someday your pen will write a revolution. Until then, write your pain.
Fareena AliyaFareena Aliya Time is precious. So are the people in your life. So love and be loved. Because tomorrow is never promised.
Jenny AJenny A Thank you for still being there for yourself. For being strong. For being resilient. Keep going.
Yohan AcostaYohan Acosta There will never be a day, I am not thankful for the fire you brought to my life that still warms me to the bones.
Mark AnthonyMark Anthony You could have shook my whole world luckily I became aware, and I took a turn.
Emma SchippersEmma Schippers Be strong enough to bloom even in the storm.
Safna SulaimanSafna Sulaiman There is magic in the minuscule.
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Ben QuayleBen Quayle Recognizing and preventing men’s health problems is not just a man’s issue. Because of its impact on wives, mothers, daughters, and sisters, men’s health is truly a family issue.
Bill RichardsonBill Richardson I understand from those who adore him, he [Julian Assange] has a great sense of humor which rarely gets an airing because he’s dealing with such serious issues.
Benedict CumberbatchBenedict Cumberbatch I have personally been affected by women’s reproductive health issues, and I will continue to support that cause and spread awareness about it.
Bethany CosentinoBethany Cosentino You can’t make decisions if there are no charges or issues to deal with. So it’s quite normal to wait until there is some reason to react.
Bernie EcclestoneBernie Ecclestone We can’t simply do our science and not worry about the ethical issues.
Bill JoyBill Joy Difficult situations require compassion, level-headedness & the empathy to see issues from somebody else’s perspective.
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