We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
IRVIN D. YALOMMarriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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Live your life to the fullest; and then, and only then, die. Don’t leave any unlived life behind.
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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I dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another.
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Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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A sense of life meaning ensues but cannot be deliberately pursued: life meaning is always a derivative phenomenon that materializes when we have transcended ourselves.
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Mature love is loving, not being loved.
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One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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This was due to a kind of increased existential awareness that resulted from this confrontation with the death of another. And I think it brought them in touch with their own death, so they began to experience a kind of preciousness to life that comes with an experience of its transiency.
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To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
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I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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Only free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
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The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.
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