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The physicality of a real relationship – one that encompasses mind, body and soul – ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be.

Henry Cloud

We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking
Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
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Anand Thakur
Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.
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Date Equality Yourself
Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.
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Date Finding Life
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Anand Thakur
If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
Diligence is not easy, but we can’t reach our goals without it.
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Anand Thakur
To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.
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Anand Thakur
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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Anand Thakur
Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Control Freedom Love Marriage Partner Relationship Slave
To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
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Anand Thakur
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Character Courage Encouragement Growth Ourselves Possession
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.
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Issues Person Problem Relationship Soft

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