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Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.

Henry Cloud

A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has an infection, the immune system deals with it. Similarly, a group enforces its norms, either actively or passively.
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Active Culture Group Immunity Infection System
Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse.
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Day Horse Important Mess Thinking
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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Anand Thakur
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Behavior Change Motivational Ourselves Pain
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.
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Boundary Essential Structure Thrive
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
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Adjust Fools Himself Truth
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.
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Amount Love Present Relationship Truth
If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.
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Community Group Health People Surround Yourself
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Connection Finding Heart Human Known Seek Willing
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something’s time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
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Greatness Metaphor Passion Recognition Season Time
Things don’t change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.
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Change Decision Marriage Responsibility
Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
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Children Fear Leave Pride Reaction Yourself
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
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Anand Thakur
We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.
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Better Creation Day Feeling Need

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