There is real danger of a disconnect between what’s on your business card and who you are deep inside, and it’s not a disconnect that the world is ready to be patient with.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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Unhappiness can stem from having only one perspective to play with.
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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
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The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word “luxury.
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As we write, so we build: to keep a record of what matters to us.
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Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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We study biology, physics, movements of glaciers… Where are the classes on envy, feeling wronged, despair, bitterness.
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A virtuous, ordinary life, striving for wisdom but never far from folly, is achievement enough.
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Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.
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Socrates, on being insulted in the marketplace, asked by a passerby, “Don’t you worry about being called names?” retorted, “Why? Do you think I should resent it if an ass had kicked me?
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Writing isn’t a career choice. It’s self-medication that over time precipitates the madness it was meant to ward off.
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The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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People only get really interesting when they start to rattle the bars of their cages.
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It is not just nature that defies us. Human life is as overwhelming… If we spend time in it [the vast spaces of nature], they may help us to accept more graciously the great, unfathomable events that molest our lives and will inevitably return us to dust.
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