The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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When Proust urges us to evaluate the world properly, he repeatedly reminds us of the value of modest scenes.
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Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
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Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored.
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Bitterness: anger that forgot where it came from.
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In a secularising world, art has replaced religion as a touchstone of our reverence and devotion.
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Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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Writing isn’t a career choice. It’s self-medication that over time precipitates the madness it was meant to ward off.
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Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous. We wouldn’t know rejection and humiliation so intimately.
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To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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It looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver – because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly.
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You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.
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Envy: a confused, tangled guide to one’s own ambitions.
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Everyone wants a better life: very few of us want to be better people.
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