Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWhat we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
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Journeys are the midwives of thought. Few places are more conducive to internal conversations than moving planes, ships or trains.
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Insomnia is a glamorous term for thoughts you forgot to have in the day.
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There’s a whole category of people who miss out by not allowing themselves to be weird enough.
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True respectability stems not from the will of the majority but from proper reasoning.
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It seems that most of us could benefit from a brush with a near-fatal disaster to help us recognise the important things that we are too defeated or embittered to recognise from day to day.
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What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.
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Not everyone is worth listening to.
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The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.
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Bad art might be defined as a series of bad choices about what to show and what to leave out.
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How generous was it to offer gifts to people one knew would never accept them?
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Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.
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The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Taking photographs can assuage the itch for possession sparked by the beauty of a place; our anxiety over losing a precious scene can decline with every click of the shutter.
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We don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
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