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In the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.

Alain de Botton

The problem is if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you’ll also, by implication … believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there.
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Belief Implication Merit Problem Really Society Top
Most of what makes a book ‘good’ is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.
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Book Make Moment Most Read Right
Architects themselves tend to shy away from the word, preferring instead to talk about the manipulation of space.
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Architect Manipulation Prefer Shy Space Themselves Word
It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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Acquaintance Acquire Beautiful Dialogue Grief Pain Thing Turn More Value
Not being understood may be taken as a sign that there is much in one to understand.
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Mauch Sign Taken Understand Understood
All tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
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Fill Hire Humiliation People Private Publisher Tour Venue Wait
I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
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Actual Excuse Fantasies Job Learn Live Perfect Relationship
There is a devilishly direct relationship between the significance of an idea and how nervous we become at the prospect of having to think about it.
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Devilishly Direct Idea Nervous Prospect Relationship Significance Think
We are not always humiliated by failing; we are humiliated only if we first invest our pride and sense of worth in a given achievement and then do not reach it.
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Achievement Always Fall First Humiliate Invest Price Sense Worth
As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Absurd Ail Bring Day Frequent Hurt Light Look Victim Wound
Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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Behaviour Forgive Malice Require Sense Sign Suffer
Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored.
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Achieve Band Faculty Job Make Narrow Personality Reduce Change Relentless Round
Arguments are like eels: however logical, they may slip from the minds weak grasp unless fixed there by imagery and style.
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Argument Eel Fixed Grasp Imagery Like Logical Mind Slip Style Unless Weak
Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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Biscuit Carpet Childhood Day Light Most Photo Smell Store Texture
It is not just nature that defies us. Human life is as overwhelming… If we spend time in it [the vast spaces of nature], they may help us to accept more graciously the great, unfathomable events that molest our lives and will inevitably return us to dust.
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Defies Human Life Nature Overwhelms Space Spend Time
Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.
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Along End Get Idea Want Wnough Worse

In the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.

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