It’s hard loving those who don’t much like themselves: “If you’re so great, why would you think I’m so great.
ALAIN DE BOTTONIn the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.
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Not being understood may be taken as a sign that there is much in one to understand.
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Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous. We wouldn’t know rejection and humiliation so intimately.
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If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
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In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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The fear of saying something stupid (which stupid people never have) has censored far more good ideas than bad ones.
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Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
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The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.
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We don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
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Every adult life could be said to be defined by two great love stories: the story of our quest for sexual love and the story of our quest for love from the world.
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Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored.
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I went to church and couldn’t swallow it. The music was nice but I don’t belong there.
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