There may be significant things to learn about people by looking at what annoys them most.
ALAIN DE BOTTONDreams reveal we never quite get ‘over’ anything: it’s all still in there somewhere.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness”.
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There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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One kind of good book should leave you asking: how did the author know that about me?
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At the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure: the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality.
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As adults, we try to develop the character traits that would have rescued our parents.
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…if the beginnings of love and amorous politics are equally rosy, then the ends may be equally bloody.
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Politics is so difficult, it’s generally only people who aren’t quite up to the task who feel convinced they are.
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Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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True respectability stems not from the will of the majority but from proper reasoning.
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Good books put a finger on emotions that are deeply our own – but that we could never have described on our own.
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Art holds out the promise of inner wholeness.
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