The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.
ALAIN DE BOTTONForgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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Philosophy had supplied Socrates with convictions in which he had been able to have rational, as opposed to hysterical, confidence when faced with disapproval.
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These inventors were elevating the formulation of entrepreneurial ideas to the status of a visionary activity. Though forced to justify their efforts in the pragmatic language of venture capital, they were at heart utopian thinkers intent on transforming the world.
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Most good thinking has its origin in fear.
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We are not always humiliated by failing; we are humiliated only if we first invest our pride and sense of worth in a given achievement and then do not reach it.
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After 40 (old age for most of man’s history), one should strive to be more or less packed and ready to go were the end call to come.
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Because the rhythm of conversation makes no allowance for dead periods, because the presence of others calls for continuous responses, we are left to regret the inanity of what we say, and the missed opportunity of what we do not.
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One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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Most of what makes a book ‘good’ is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.
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There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.
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Literature is the greatest reality simulator – a machine that puts you through infinitely more situations than you can ever directly witness.
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Travel agents would be wiser to ask us what we hope to change about our lives rather than simply where we wish to go.
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.
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