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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.

Alain de Botton

The telephone becomes an instrument of torture in the demonic hands of a beloved who doesn’t call.
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Call Demonic Instrument Telephone Torture
Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.
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Before Blend Define Joy Melancholy Perfection Sadness Sear
A good half of the art of living is resilience.
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Good Half Live Resilience
Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
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Happy Instant Interest Terrible Think Writer
The dream of the news is that it makes us care about other people and situations. But we cannot identify with people to whom we haven’t been introduced. Humans will only respond to art, to people who are skilled in making you care.
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Art Care Dream False Idea Identify Make News People
Literature is the greatest reality simulator – a machine that puts you through infinitely more situations than you can ever directly witness.
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Direct Great Literature Machine Put Reality Simulator Witness
The activities of drawing, eating and drinking, all involve assimilations by the self of desirable elements from the world, a transfer of goodness from without to within.
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Activity Assimilation Desirable Draw Drink Eat Element Goodness Involve Transfer World
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
Newspapers are being read all around. The point is not, of course, to glean new information, but rather to coax the mind out of its sleep-induced introspective temper.
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All Round Coax Information Mind Newspaper Out Post Rather Read
Unnatural to expect that learning to be happy should be any easier than, say, learning to play the violin or require any less practice.
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Easier Except Happy Learn Less Play Practice Require Unnatural Violin
Most of what makes a book ‘good’ is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.
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Book Make Moment Most Read Right
The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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Destiny Life Long Romantic Stronger
Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Absolute Afford Desire Grow Relative Something Time Wealth
A virtuous, ordinary life, striving for wisdom but never far from folly, is achievement enough.
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Archive Enough Ordinary Strive Virtuous Wisdom
If our lives are dominated by a search for happiness, then perhaps few activities reveal as much about the dynamics of this quest – in all its ardour and paradoxes – than our travels.
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Activity Dominate Dynamic Few Happiness Live Paradox Perhaps Quest Search
As adults, we try to develop the character traits that would have rescued our parents.
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Adult Character Develop Parent Rescue Trait

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