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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.

Alain de Botton

I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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Day General Life Optimistic Person Pessimistic Take Terrific Thing
After 40 (old age for most of man’s history), one should strive to be more or less packed and ready to go were the end call to come.
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Age End Less Man More Most Old Pack Should Strive
Reputation matters so much only because people so seldom think for themselves.
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Matter Much Only People Reputation Seldom Themselves
As an atheist, I think there are lots of things religions get up to which are of value to non-believers – and one of those things is trying to be a bit better than we normally manage to be.
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Atheist Believer Non Normal One Religion Thing Try Value
Our disrespect for thinking: someone sitting in a chair, gazing out of a window blankly, always described as ‘doing nothing’.
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Blankly Chair Describe Disrespect Doing Gaze Nothing Sit Someone Think Window
Man seems merely dust postponed: the sublime as an encounter – pleasurable, intoxicating, even – with human weakness in the face of strength, age and size of the universe.
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Encounter Human Intoxicate Man Merely Pleasurable Postpone Seem Sublime Weakness
Our responses to the world are crucially moulded by the company we keep, for we temper our curiosity to fit in with the expectations of others.
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Compare Crucial Expectation Keep Mould Other Response Temper World
Envy: a confused, tangled guide to one’s own ambitions.
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Ambition Confuse Envy Tangle
The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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Destiny Life Long Romantic Stronger
We should not feel embarrassed by our difficulties, only by our failure to grow anything beautiful from them.
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Anything Beautiful Difficulty Embarrassed Failure Feel
The dream of the news is that it makes us care about other people and situations. But we cannot identify with people to whom we haven’t been introduced. Humans will only respond to art, to people who are skilled in making you care.
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Art Care Dream False Idea Identify Make News People
Which seems no less relevant in the secular realm than in the religious one-that we have within us a precious, childlike, vulnerable core which we should nourish and nurture on its turbulent journey through life.
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Childlike Journey Life Nourish Precious Relevant Secular Seem Vulnerable
One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone as what is objectively healthy.
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Attract Fall Healthy Interest Object Rare Someone
Artistic accounts involve severe abbreviations of what reality will force upon us.
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Abbreviation Account Artistic Force Involve Reality Serve
There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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Always Emotion Lazy Option Quote
We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.
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Allegiance Desirable Important Mind Need Oppose Shore Site State Version World

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