Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
ALAIN DE BOTTONOur homes do not have to offer us permanent occupancy or store our clothes to merit the name. To speak of home in relation to a building is simply to recognise its harmony with our own prized internal song. Home can be an airport or a library, a garden or a motorway diner.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
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Work is most fulfilling when you’re at the comfortable, exciting edge of not quite knowing what you are doing.
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Socrates, on being insulted in the marketplace, asked by a passerby, “Don’t you worry about being called names?” retorted, “Why? Do you think I should resent it if an ass had kicked me?
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Journeys are the midwives of thought. Few places are more conducive to internal conversations than moving planes, ships or trains.
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We often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
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In the gap between who we wish one day to be and who we are at present, must come pain, anxiety, envy and humiliation.
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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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Work finally begins when the fear of doing nothing exceeds the fear of doing it badly.
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It’s perhaps easier now than ever before to make a good living; it’s perhaps harder than ever before to stay calm, to be free of career anxiety.
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Every realistic picture represents a choice as to which features of reality should be given prominence; no painting ever captures the whole.
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Once I began to consider everything as being of potential interest, objects released latent layers of value.
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An argument in a couple: 2 people attempting to introduce each other to important truths – by panicked shouting.
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I passionately believe that’s it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also how you say it – that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.
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Newspapers are being read all around. The point is not, of course, to glean new information, but rather to coax the mind out of its sleep-induced introspective temper.
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There is a longing for a return to a time without the need for choices, free of the regret at the inevitable loss that all choice (however wonderful) has entailed.
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