Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
IRVIN D. YALOMOnly free man are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it’s absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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The drive for power is not uncommonly motivated by this dynamic. One’s own fear and sense of limitation is avoided by enlarging oneself and one’s sphere of control.
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Just as you were about to step on it, I asked you “Do you want to cross the footbridge to me?” – Immediately you did not want to anymore; and when I asked you again you remained silent.
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I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.
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A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire.
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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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… sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past.
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The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.
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We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident.
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Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life, and you’ll always find despair.
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