Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
IRVIN D. YALOMHeidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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Psychiatry is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish.
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Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
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You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
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…the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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Psychotherapy is a cyclical process from isolation into relationship. It is cyclical because the patient, in terror of existential isolation, relates deeply and meaningfully to the therapist and then, strengthened by this encounter, is led back again to a confrontation with existential isolation.
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You will search the world over and not find a nonsuperstitious community. As long as there is ignorance, there will be adherence to superstition. Dispelling ignorance is the only solution. That is why I teach.
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Hidden in disguise, leaking out in a variety of symptoms. It is the wellspring of many of our worries, stresses, and conflicts.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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… sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past.
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Specialness as a primary mode of death transcendence takes a number of other maladaptive forms.
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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