The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient’s control over every interaction.
IRVIN D. YALOMThe spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Psychiatry is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish.
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To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.
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To the extent that one is responsible for one’s life, one is alone.
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A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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As we reach the crest of life and look at the path before us, we apprehend that the path no longer ascends but slopes downward toward decline and diminishment. From that point on, concerns about death are never far from mind.
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The path to decision may be hard because it leads into the territory of both finiteness and groundlessness—domains soaked in anxiety.
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If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.
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The act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.
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Absolute power, as we have always known, corrupts absolutely; it corrupts because it does not do the trick for the individual.
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Pandora’s box, but to re-enter life in a richer, more compassionate manner.
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Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis.
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