Life is a spark between two identical voids, the darkness before birth and the one after death.
IRVIN D. YALOMIn a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
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Reality always creeps in–the reality of our helplessness and our mortality; the reality that, despite our reach for the stars, a creaturely fate awaits us.
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When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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There was a time in our lives when we were so close that nothing seemed to obstruct our friendship and brotherhood, and only a small footbridge separated us.
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Since then mountains and torrential rivers and whatever separates and alienates have been cast between us, and even if we wanted to get together, we couldn’t. But when you now think of that little footbridge, words fail you and you sob and marvel.
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The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death.
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There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Heidegger makes the distinction between being absorbed in the way things are in the world and being aware that things are in the world.
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Pandora’s box, but to re-enter life in a richer, more compassionate manner.
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To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible.
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Some have expressed the very opposite feeling–the fear that they would not be interesting enough to write about.
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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I feel strongly, because a man who will himself die one day in the not to distant future and, also, as a psychiatrist who spent decades dealing with death anxiety, that confronting death allows us, not to open some noisome.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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One comprehends oneself in order not to be preoccupied with oneself.
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