Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
ALAIN DE BOTTONIt is perhaps sad books that best console us when we are sad.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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We should read other people’s books in order to learn what we feel; it is our own thoughts we should be developing, even if it is another writer’s thought that help us to do so.
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What am I supposed to do here? What am I supposed to think?
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The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.
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The longing for a destiny is no nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to share our bed with those who cannot fathom our soul, can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams.
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There may be significant things to learn about people by looking at what annoys them most.
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Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored.
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Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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…if the beginnings of love and amorous politics are equally rosy, then the ends may be equally bloody.
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Only by declaring a book completely finished can one start to see how much remains to be done on it.
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I went to church and couldn’t swallow it. The music was nice but I don’t belong there.
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There are selections so acute that they come to define a place, with the result that we can no longer travel through that landscape without being reminded of what a great artist noticed there.
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We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability.
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Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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If we are inclined to forget how much there is in the world besides that which we anticipate, then works of art are perhaps a little to blame, for in them we find at work the same process of simplification or selection as in the imagination.
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Differ though we might with Christianity’s view of what precisely our souls need, it is hard to discredit the provocative underlying thesis.
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