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The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust’s therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.

Alain de Botton

How generous was it to offer gifts to people one knew would never accept them?
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Accept Generous Gift never Offer People
Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
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Come Control Despair Hope Suggest Surrender Total
As an atheist, I think there are lots of things religions get up to which are of value to non-believers – and one of those things is trying to be a bit better than we normally manage to be.
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Atheist Believer Non Normal One Religion Thing Try Value
If our lives are dominated by a search for happiness, then perhaps few activities reveal as much about the dynamics of this quest – in all its ardour and paradoxes – than our travels.
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Activity Dominate Dynamic Few Happiness Live Paradox Perhaps Quest Search
The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Complex Delusion Desert Hallucinate Horizon Need Oasis Prince Princess
There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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Always Emotion Lazy Option Quote
Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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Anger End Fear Feel Most Receive Remember Weakness
Unhappiness can stem from having only one perspective to play with.
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Have Perspective Play Stem Unhappiness
He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is consoling, when love has let us down, to hear that happiness was never part of the plan.
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Bitterness Console Depress Expectation Inspire Love Happy Part Plan Rather
Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind.
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Before Blend Define Joy Melancholy Perfection Sadness Sear
Art cannot single-handedly create enthusiasm… it merely contributes to enthusiasm and guides us to be more conscious of feelings that we might previously have experienced only tentatively or hurriedly.
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Conscious Contribute Create Enthusiasm Guide Merely More Single
As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Absurd Ail Bring Day Frequent Hurt Light Look Victim Wound
Every realistic picture represents a choice as to which features of reality should be given prominence; no painting ever captures the whole.
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Capture Choice Every Realistic Feature Given Paint Picture Prominence Reality Represent
The blunt large questions become connected to smaller, apparently esoteric ones.
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Apparently Blunt Connect Esoteric Larger One Question Smaller
As we write, so we build: to keep a record of what matters to us.
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True love is a lack of desire to check one’s smartphone in another’s presence.
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Desire Lack Love Presence Smartphone

The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust’s therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.

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The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust’s therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.

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