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There is a devilishly direct relationship between the significance of an idea and how nervous we become at the prospect of having to think about it.

Alain de Botton

The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness”.
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Anxiety Defend Determine Largets Ourself Part Personally Sad
The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful than we expected them to be.
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Beautiful Cry Expect Film Moment More Thing
Good sex isn’t just fun, it keeps us sane and happy. Having sex with someone makes us feel wanted, alive and potent.
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Alive Fum Good Happy Just Keep Potent Sane Sex Wanted
Literature deserves its prestige for one reason above all others – because it’s a tool to help us live and die with a little bit more wisdom, goodness, and sanity.
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Above Bit Deserve Help Literature Little Other Prestige Reason Tool
I passionately believe that’s it’s not just what you say that counts, it’s also how you say it – that the success of your argument critically depends on your manner of presenting it.
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Argument Believe Count Critical Manner Passionate Present Success
Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
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Achievement Affection Begin Depend Mature
It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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Acquaintance Acquire Beautiful Dialogue Grief Pain Thing Turn More Value
I went to church and couldn’t swallow it. The music was nice but I don’t belong there.
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Belong Church Music Nice Swallow
It’s as though either you accept [religious] doctrine and then you can have all the nice stuff, or you reject the doctrine and you’re living in some kind of spiritual wasteland under the guidance of CNN and Walmart.
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Accept Afford Desire Either Grow Poorer Possess Relative Resource Rich Something Time
Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books that were written because authors couldn’t find anyone to talk to.
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Anyone Bookseller Destination Most Number Talk Valuable
One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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Advance Alone Better Capacity End Good Guarantor One Relationship
Art cannot single-handedly create enthusiasm… it merely contributes to enthusiasm and guides us to be more conscious of feelings that we might previously have experienced only tentatively or hurriedly.
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Conscious Contribute Create Enthusiasm Guide Merely More Single
We often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
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Actual Blame Enough Foul Lose Often Temper Those
The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.
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Admit Anticipation Fear Inability Leave Lie Memory Position Present Shelter
Intuition is unconscious accumulated experience informing judgement in real time.
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Accumpilate Inform Intuition Judgement Real Time Unconscious
Dreams reveal we never quite get ‘over’ anything: it’s all still in there somewhere.
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Anything Dream never Quite Reveal Somewhere

There is a devilishly direct relationship between the significance of an idea and how nervous we become at the prospect of having to think about it.

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