There is always a ..belief that by destroying the thing that we love we destroy our needs
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There is always a ..belief that by destroying the thing that we love we destroy our needs
ADAM PHILLIPSThere is nothing more scandalous than a happy marriage
ADAM PHILLIPSTo our grudge against our mothers; the way we never let our mothers off the hook for their not meeting our every need.
ADAM PHILLIPSBelieving in religion is like believing that adulthood is the solution to childhood.
ADAM PHILLIPSWe are children for a very long time.
ADAM PHILLIPSThe child [uses] ‘doubt about food to hide doubt about love.’
ADAM PHILLIPSExcesses of appetite are self-cures for feelings of hopelessness. ..
ADAM PHILLIPSI am always true to myself, that is the problem. Who else could I be true to?
ADAM PHILLIPSThe vocabulary of one’s self-criticism is so impoverished and clichéd.
ADAM PHILLIPSTragic heroes are failed pragmatists. Their ends are unrealistic and their means are impractical.
ADAM PHILLIPSOne thing you discover in psychoanalytic treatment is the limits of what you can change about yourself or your life.
ADAM PHILLIPSWhen we define ourselves by what we can recognize, by what we can comprehend- rather than, say, by what we can describe
ADAM PHILLIPSTransgression is a quest for solitude
ADAM PHILLIPSIt is as if to say: if these are not valued – if these forms of wanting and feeling and speaking and doing – are not cultivated and encouraged and rewarded in the child, then the child will be mad.
ADAM PHILLIPSThe child can find out what the object ..might be only by finding ..obstacles to its access
ADAM PHILLIPSThe whole notion of sanity may be an attempt to medicalize morality – to speak of the good in the language of health: to make us more accurate, more scientific in our wanting – but by the same token it becomes a form of moral blackmail.
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