It is as if to say: if these are not valued – if these forms of wanting and feeling and speaking and doing – are not cultivated and encouraged and rewarded in the child, then the child will be mad.
ADAM PHILLIPSThere is nothing more terrorizing than the possibility that nothing is hidden.
More Adam Phillips Quotes
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We have been taught to wish for it, but the wish to be understood may be our most vengeful demand, may be the way we hang on, as adults ,
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I am always true to myself, that is the problem. Who else could I be true to?
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We are children for a very long time.
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We are tyrannized by our blind spots, and by whatever it is about ourselves that we find unacceptable.
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We are at our most stupid in our self-hatred.
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The big secret about Art is that no one wants it to be true.
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Monogamy is a way of getting the versions of ourselves down to the minimum.
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Lovers, of course, are notoriously frantic epistemologists, second only to paranoiacs (and analysts) as readers of signs and wonders.
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The vocabulary of one’s self-criticism is so impoverished and clichéd.
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When we define ourselves by what we can recognize, by what we can comprehend- rather than, say, by what we can describe
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People change, but there really are limits.
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One thing you discover in psychoanalytic treatment is the limits of what you can change about yourself or your life.
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Tragic heroes are failed pragmatists. Their ends are unrealistic and their means are impractical.
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There is always a ..belief that by destroying the thing that we love we destroy our needs
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Excesses of appetite are self-cures for feelings of hopelessness. ..
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Wanting to be understood, as adults, can be our most violent form of nostalgia.
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we are continually under threat from what we are unwilling and/or unable to see.
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The past influences everything and dictates nothing.
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To our grudge against our mothers; the way we never let our mothers off the hook for their not meeting our every need.
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The whole notion of sanity may be an attempt to medicalize morality – to speak of the good in the language of health: to make us more accurate, more scientific in our wanting – but by the same token it becomes a form of moral blackmail.
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The child [uses] ‘doubt about food to hide doubt about love.’
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Everybody is dealing with how much of their own aliveness they can bear and how much they need to anesthetize themselves.
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There is nothing more scandalous than a happy marriage
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Believing in religion is like believing that adulthood is the solution to childhood.
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Sanity, in other words, becomes a pressing preoccupation as soon as we recognize the importance of recognition.
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You write to find out what you believe.
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