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Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

Henry Cloud

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
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Anand Thakur
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
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Angry Control Fact Frustration Ourselves Reality
For someone’s character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting yelled at, criticized, and put down can stop them for life.
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Character Children Criticism Freedom Growth Life Stop
Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
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Anand Thakur
Dating should be a part of your life, not your life a part of dating. There is more to life than finding a date.
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Date Finding Life
Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Anand Thakur
Being right can never compete with doing well.
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Complete Right
Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.
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Anand Thakur
Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Control Freedom Love Marriage Partner Relationship Slave
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
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Connection Finding Heart Human Known Seek Willing
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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Anand Thakur
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
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Criticism Issues People Relationship Sound
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
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Anand Thakur
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.
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Ourselves Talk Thinking

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