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A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

Henry Cloud

Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Anand Thakur
Dating is primarily a numbers game. People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That’s just the way it is.
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Date People Relationship Way
If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you ‘do’ boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
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Boundary Breathe Experience Reality Remember Training Yourself
Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.
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Anand Thakur
Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
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Control Freedom Love Marriage Partner Relationship Slave
Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
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Endurance Goodness Growth Pain Resistance
When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.
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Brain Follow Leadership People Result Well
You will not grow without attempting to do things you are unable to do.
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Attempt Growth Yourself
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
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Anand Thakur
There’s no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.
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Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.
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Date Equality Yourself
If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.
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Attitude Build Communication Culture Expectation Honesty Performance
Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over.
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Break Up Date Value Worth
Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth.
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Anand Thakur
The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.
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Demand Life Mature Person

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

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