One thing you discover in psychoanalytic treatment is the limits of what you can change about yourself or your life.
ADAM PHILLIPSWe have been taught to wish for it, but the wish to be understood may be our most vengeful demand, may be the way we hang on, as adults ,
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Excesses of appetite are self-cures for feelings of hopelessness. ..
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You write to find out what you believe.
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The whole notion of sanity may be an attempt to medicalize morality – to speak of the good in the language of health: to make us more accurate, more scientific in our wanting – but by the same token it becomes a form of moral blackmail.
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Wanting to be understood, as adults, can be our most violent form of nostalgia.
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We have been taught to wish for it, but the wish to be understood may be our most vengeful demand, may be the way we hang on, as adults ,
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We are children for a very long time.
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There is nothing more scandalous than a happy marriage
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Monogamy is a way of getting the versions of ourselves down to the minimum.
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There is nothing more terrorizing than the possibility that nothing is hidden.
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The vocabulary of one’s self-criticism is so impoverished and clichéd.
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I am always true to myself, that is the problem. Who else could I be true to?
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When we define ourselves by what we can recognize, by what we can comprehend- rather than, say, by what we can describe
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The child [uses] ‘doubt about food to hide doubt about love.’
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Sanity, in other words, becomes a pressing preoccupation as soon as we recognize the importance of recognition.
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To grow up is to discover what one is unequal to.
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