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A very important but difficult piece of renewing relationships is accepting responsibility for our part in any conflict.

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When we see others as separate, they become a threat. When we see others as part of us, as connected, as interdependent, then there is no challenge we cannot face—together.
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Challenge Connection Philosophy Separate Togetherness Unity
Be nice to whites, they need you to rediscover their humanity.
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Deep Discover Humanity Nice Race
Forgiveness does not relieve someone of responsibility for what they have done. Forgiveness does not erase accountability. It is not about turning a blind eye or even turning the other cheek.
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Accountable Eyes Forgiveness Philosophy Responsibility
Much depends on your attitude. If you are filled with negative judgment and anger, then you will feel separate from other people. You will feel lonely.
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Attitude Judge Lonely Negative People Philosophy Separate Yourself
Our maturity will be judged by how well we are able to agree to disagree and yet continue to love one another, to care for one another, and cherish one another and seek the greater good of the other.
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Care Cherish Good Great Love Philosophy
Forgiveness is simply about understanding that every one of us is both inherently good and inherently flawed.
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Forgiveness Good Philosophy Understand
Don’t raise your voice, improve your argument.
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Argument Improvement One Liner Raise Voice Yourself
We are fragile creatures, and it is from this weakness, not despite it, that we discover the possibility of true joy.
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Discover Joy Philosophy Possible True Weakness
Give a man a fish and feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime. Teach a man to cycle and he will realize fishing is stupid and boring.
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Day Feed Fish Life Man Philosophy Realize Stupidity Teaching
We are not responsible for what breaks us, but we can be responsible for what puts us back together again. Naming the hurt is how we begin to repair our broken parts.
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Break Healing Hurt Repair Responsibility Togetherness
Forgiving is not forgetting; its actually remembering–remembering and not using your right to hit back. Its a second chance for a new beginning. And the remembering part is particularly important. Especially if you dont want to repeat what happened.
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Beginning Forget Forgiveness Philosophy
When we see others as the enemy, we risk becoming what we hate. When we oppress others, we end up oppressing ourselves. All of our humanity is dependent upon recognizing the humanity in others.
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Enemy Hate Humanity Oppression Recognize Risk
We do not heal in isolation. When we reach out and connect with one another—when we tell the story, name the hurt, grant forgiveness, and renew or release the relationship—our suffering begins to transform.
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Alone Connection Deep Forgiveness Healing Hurt Philosophy Relationship Story
If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse, and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.
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Animal Appreciation Justice Oppression Philosophy Situation Yourself
Discovering more joy does not, save us from the inevitability of hardship and heartbreak.
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Discover Hard Heart Broken Joy Philosophy Save
We have hardship without becoming hard. We have heartbreaks without being broken.
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