People only change when it becomes too dangerous to stay the way they are.
ROLLO MAYFortunately, however, we no longer have to argue that self -love is not only necessary and good but that it also is a prerequisite for loving others.
More Rollo May Quotes
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There is an energy field between humans. And, when we reach out in passion, it is met with an answering passion and changes the relationship forever.
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It is amazing how many hints and guides and intuitions for living come to the sensitive person who has ears to hear what his body is saying.
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A myth is a way of making sense in a senseless world. Myths are narrative patterns that give significance to our existence.
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Courage is the capacity to meet the anxiety which arises as one achieves freedom. It is the willingness to differentiate, to move from the protecting realms of parental dependence to new levels of freedom and integration.
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Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.
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Real freedom is the ability to pause between stimulus and response, and in that pause, choose.
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When I fall in love, I feel more valuable and I treat myself with more care. We have all observed the hesitant adolescent, uncertain of himself, who, when he or she falls in love, suddenly walks with a certain inner assuredness and confidence/
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When we are dealing with human beings, no truth has reality by itself; it is always dependent upon the reality of the immediate relationship.
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Heroes are necessary in order to enable the citizens to find their own ideals, courage and wisdom in the society. The hero carries our hopes, our aspirations, our ideals, our beliefs. In the deepest sense the hero is created by us; he or she is born collectively as our own myth.
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Competitive individualism militates against the experience of community, and that lack of community is a centrally important factor in contemporaneous anxiety.
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So courage makes possible all the psychological virtues. Without courage other values wither away into mere facsimiles of virtue.
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Does not the possibility or the power to do something about the situation at hand confer on one the responsibility to do it?
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Freedom is man’s capacity to take a hand in his own development. It is our capacity to mold ourselves.
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Courage is necessary to make being and becoming possible.
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The acorn becomes an oak by means of automatic growth; no commitment is necessary. The kitten similarly becomes a cat on the basis of instinct. Nature and being are identical in creatures like them. But a man or woman becomes fully human only by his or her choices and his or her commitment to them.
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This personal freedom to think and feel and speak authentically and to be conscious of so doing is the quality that distinguishes us as human.
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The mature person becomes able to differentiate feelings into as many nuances, strong and passionate experiences, or delicate and sensitive ones, as in the different passages of music in a symphony. Unfortunately, many of us have feelings limited like notes in a bugle call.
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In order to be open to creativity, one must have the capacity for constructive use of solitude. One must overcome the fear of being alone.
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Science, Nietzsche had warned, is becoming a factory, and the result will be ethical nihilism.
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It is an old and ironic habit of human beings to run faster when we have lost our way; and we grasp more fiercely at research, statistics, and technical aids in sex when we have lost the values and meaning of love.
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Joy, rather than happiness, is the goal of life, for joy is the emotion which accompanies our fulfilling our natures as human beings. It is based on the experience of one’s identity as a being of worth and dignity.
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One central need in life is to fulfill its own potential.
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Every human being must have a point at which he stands against the culture, where he says, this is me and the damned world can go to hell.
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The ultimate error is the refusal to look evil in the face.
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There is nobody who totally lacks the courage to change.
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Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.
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