The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
IRVIN D. YALOMLook out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
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Just as you were about to step on it, I asked you “Do you want to cross the footbridge to me?” – Immediately you did not want to anymore; and when I asked you again you remained silent.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can’t treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17)
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Mirroring, softly, barely audibly, just under the membrane of consciousness.
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Death, however, does itch. It itches all the time. It is always with us, scratching at some inner door.
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None of my patients are really troubled by the idea that some part of what they say might be in a book in the future.
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The more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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Some piece of ourselves, not necessarily our consciousness, but some piece of ourselves gets passed on and on and on.
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Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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One doesn’t do existential therapy as a freestanding separate theory; rather it informs your approach to such issues as death, which many therapists tend to shy away from.
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You know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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