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When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?

Irvin D. Yalom

One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
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Far Fear Group Once Patient Powerful Reason Reluctant Therapist Therapy Thing Too Work
Absolute power, as we have always known, corrupts absolutely; it corrupts because it does not do the trick for the individual.
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Absolute Always Corrupt Individual Known Power Trick
Reality always creeps in–the reality of our helplessness and our mortality; the reality that, despite our reach for the stars, a creaturely fate awaits us.
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Always Creep Experience Helplessness Indeed Morality Reality
Pandora’s box, but to re-enter life in a richer, more compassionate manner.
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Box Compassionate Enter Life Maner More Pandora Re Richer
Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.
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Anguish Another Anxiety Death Finitude Mother Religion Temper Way
Rather, love is a way of being, a “giving to,” not a ‘falling for”; a mode of relating at large, not an act limited to a single person.
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Being Fall Give Large Limited Love Mode Person Rather Relate Single Way
Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love.
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Between Difference Fall Infinite Love Passion People Spark Stand
Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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Come Despair Dream Even Many More People True
We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
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Effect Growth Life Local Patient Pleasure Ripple Salutary Take Touch
Some have expressed the very opposite feeling–the fear that they would not be interesting enough to write about.
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Enough Expression Fear Feeling Interest Opposite Some Write
I don’t let any personal views about religion cause me to want to take away something that’s offering the patient comfort.
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Always Any Cause Comfort Let Offer Patient Personal Religion Something Take View Want
I dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another.
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Another Crave Dream Love More People Possess
When that person dies, the whole cluster dies,too, vanishes from the living memory. I wonder who that person will be for me. Whose death will make me truly dead?
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Cluster Dead Death Living Memory Person Truly Vanish Wonder
If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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Able Accomplish Agree Among Change Great Hardly Men Myself Nature
Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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Couch Experience Like Long Need Personal Side Therapist
It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one’s germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness!
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Alleviate Another Bear Child Children Consciousness Gem Life Loneliness Need Provide Purpose Reproduce Sperm Use Wrong

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