In a study we did of bereavement, we found that rather impressive numbers of widows and widowers had not simply gone back to their pre-loss functioning, but grown.
IRVIN D. YALOMYou know, I think everybody I’ve seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably it’s very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They’re not really interested in the person, he doesn’t relate to the person.
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Indeed, the evidence supporting the efficacy of group therapy, and the prevailing sentiment of the mental health profession, are sufficiently strong that it would be difficult to defend the adequacy of the inpatient unit that attempted to operate without a small group program.
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When we have forgotten ourselves and become absorbed in someone (or something) outside ourselves
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My hunch is yes. It would certainly do something for those who are most ruthless, who tend to make others most miserable.
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This is what makes us human. But it comes with a costly price: the wound of mortality. Our existence is forever shadowed by the knowledge that we will grow, blossom, and, inevitably, diminish and die.
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I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.
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If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
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Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it.
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The death anxiety of many people is fueled … by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential.
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Life is a spark between two identical voids, the darkness before birth and the one after death.
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Death loses its terror if one dies when one has consummated one’s life!
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I never want to take away something when I don’t have anything better to offer him in a way.
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And if you do the latter, you’re not so worried about the everyday trivialities of life, for example, petty concerns about secrecy or privacy.
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If I’m among men who don’t agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself.
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I feel strongly, because a man who will himself die one day in the not to distant future and, also, as a psychiatrist who spent decades dealing with death anxiety, that confronting death allows us, not to open some noisome.
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Many people are in despair because their dreams didn’t come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true.
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