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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

Henry Cloud

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
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Destroy Greatness Performance Relationship Return
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
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Built Disagree Freedom Intimacy True
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.
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Amount Love Present Relationship Truth
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
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Character Courage Encouragement Growth Ourselves Possession
To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those things who looks favorably upon us and who does things for us for our own good.
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A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.
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Control Goodness Person Reaction Relationship Respond Test
Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.
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Morals Reality Religious
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
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Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
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Children Fear Leave Pride Reaction Yourself
We all make mistakes, but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
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Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
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Anand Thakur
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
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Business Grief Person Result
There is a difference between solitude and isolation. One is connected and one isn’t. Solitude replenishes, isolation diminishes.
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Anand Thakur
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
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Consequence Natural People Power Rescue
Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.
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Date People Place Practice
The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
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Live Ourselves Pretend Sadness Sin

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