There is real danger of a disconnect between what’s on your business card and who you are deep inside, and it’s not a disconnect that the world is ready to be patient with.
ALAIN DE BOTTONWe don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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If one felt successful, there’d be so little incentive to be successful.
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The arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than writing a philosophy of shyness or sadness or friendship drives me nuts. I can’t accept that.
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Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writers.
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To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Travel agents would be wiser to ask us what we hope to change about our lives rather than simply where we wish to go.
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It’s as though either you accept [religious] doctrine and then you can have all the nice stuff, or you reject the doctrine and you’re living in some kind of spiritual wasteland under the guidance of CNN and Walmart.
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So many complaints boil down to the belly ache of the fragile, mortal, ignored ego in a vast and indifferent universe.
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There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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To one’s enemies: “I hate myself more than you ever could.
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For paranoia about ‘what other people think’ : remember that only some hate, a very few love – and almost all just don’t care.
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One’s doing well if age improves even slightly one’s capacity to hold on to that vital truism: “This too shall pass.
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Dreams reveal we never quite get ‘over’ anything: it’s all still in there somewhere.
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In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.
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One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.
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