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One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.

Alain de Botton

At the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure: the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality.
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Basic Collision Every Frustration Heart Structure
Architects themselves tend to shy away from the word, preferring instead to talk about the manipulation of space.
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Architect Manipulation Prefer Shy Space Themselves Word
Because the rhythm of conversation makes no allowance for dead periods, because the presence of others calls for continuous responses, we are left to regret the inanity of what we say, and the missed opportunity of what we do not.
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Allow Call Continuous Conversation Dead Make Misuse Opportunity Period Presence Rhythm
We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never saved anyone from the disease.
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Anyone Aware Capable Disease Instantly Intelligent Love More never Save
The more closely we analyze what we consider ‘sexy,’ the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.
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Analyze Clearly Closely Consider Eroticism Excitement Feel More Understand
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
Reputation matters so much only because people so seldom think for themselves.
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Matter Much Only People Reputation Seldom Themselves
Maturity: knowing where you’re crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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Control Crazy Know Maturity Try Under
to design means forcing ourselves to unlearn what we believe we already know, patiently to take apart the mechanisms behind our reflexes and to acknowledge the mystery and stupefying complexity of everyday gestures like switching off a light of turning on a tap
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Already Behaviour Design Force Mechanism Ourselves Patiently Unlearn
We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
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Crowd Inside Newspaper Raed Stuff Tale Weird
One’s doing well if age improves even slightly one’s capacity to hold on to that vital truism: “This too shall pass.
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Age Capacity Do Hold Improve One Pass Shall Slightly
Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Absolute Afford Desire Grow Relative Something Time Wealth
Literature deserves its prestige for one reason above all others – because it’s a tool to help us live and die with a little bit more wisdom, goodness, and sanity.
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Above Bit Deserve Help Literature Little Other Prestige Reason Tool
The company of certain people may excite our generosity and sensitivity, while that of others awakens our competitiveness and envy.
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Awaken Certain Company Competitiveness Excite Generously People Sensitivity
It wasn’t only fanatics and drunkards who began conversations with strangers in public.
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Began Conversation Drunkard Fall Humiliate Public Stranger
Man seems merely dust postponed: the sublime as an encounter – pleasurable, intoxicating, even – with human weakness in the face of strength, age and size of the universe.
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Encounter Human Intoxicate Man Merely Pleasurable Postpone Seem Sublime Weakness

One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.

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One of our major flaws, and causes of unhappiness, is that we find it hard to take note of appreciate and be grateful for what is always around us. We suffer because we lose sight of the value of what is before us and yearn, often unfairly, for the imagined attraction elsewhere.

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