I think people want to get married to end their emotional uncertainty. In a way, they want to end powerful feelings, or certainly the negative ones.
ALAIN DE BOTTONAll tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
More Alain de Botton Quotes
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We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability.
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I feel that the great challenge of our time is the communication of ideas.
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Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.
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The mind does most of its best thinking when we aren’t there. The answers are there in the morning.
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Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.
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Happiness is impossible for longer than 15 minutes. We are the descendants of creatures who, above all else, worried.
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The good parent: someone who doesn’t mind, for a time, being hated by their children.
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Once I began to consider everything as being of potential interest, objects released latent layers of value.
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Politics is so difficult, it’s generally only people who aren’t quite up to the task who feel convinced they are.
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Envy: a confused, tangled guide to one’s own ambitions.
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What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions.
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There is a devilishly direct relationship between the significance of an idea and how nervous we become at the prospect of having to think about it.
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It is not just nature that defies us. Human life is as overwhelming… If we spend time in it [the vast spaces of nature], they may help us to accept more graciously the great, unfathomable events that molest our lives and will inevitably return us to dust.
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Our minds are susceptible to the influence of external voices telling us what we require to be satisfied, voices that may drown out the faint sounds emitted by our souls and distract us from the careful, arduous task of accurately naming our priorities.
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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day to day take on things. The bare facts of life are utterly terrifying. And yet, one can laugh. Indeed, one has to laugh precisely because of the darkness: the nervous laughter of the trenches.
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