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In the works of Lucretius, we find two reasons why we shouldn’t worry about death. If you have had a successful life, Lucretius tell us, there’s no reason to mind its end. And, if you haven’t had a good time, “Why do you seek to add more years, which would also pass but ill?”

Alain de Botton

What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.
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Disappoint Kill Obligation Other Thing Thousand
In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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Belief Complex Evidence Man Oasis Palm Thirsty Tree Water
For paranoia about ‘what other people think’ : remember that only some hate, a very few love – and almost all just don’t care.
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Almost Care Few Hate Love Paranoia People Remember Think
We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.
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Allegiance Desirable Important Mind Need Oppose Shore Site State Version World
Rage is caused by a conviction, almost comic in its optimistic origins (however tragic in its effects), that a given frustration has not been written into the contract of life.
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Almost Cause Comic Conviction Frustration Optimistic Origin Rage
The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
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Destiny Life Long Romantic Stronger
Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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Anger End Fear Feel Most Receive Remember Weakness
Reputation matters so much only because people so seldom think for themselves.
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Matter Much Only People Reputation Seldom Themselves
Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.
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Beautiful Deal Endeavor Feeling Long Love Purchase Response Something Think Way
The only people we can think of as normal are those we don’t yet know very well.
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Normal Very Only People Think Well
Everyone wants a better life: very few of us want to be better people.
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Better Everyone Few Life People Want
To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
Politics is so difficult, it’s generally only people who aren’t quite up to the task who feel convinced they are.
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Convince Difficult Feel Generally Only People Politics Quite Task
Literature is the greatest reality simulator – a machine that puts you through infinitely more situations than you can ever directly witness.
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Direct Great Literature Machine Put Reality Simulator Witness
What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions.
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Ambition Argue Author Focus Idea Make Own Success Sure Want
Intuition is unconscious accumulated experience informing judgement in real time.
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Accumpilate Inform Intuition Judgement Real Time Unconscious

In the works of Lucretius, we find two reasons why we shouldn’t worry about death. If you have had a successful life, Lucretius tell us, there’s no reason to mind its end. And, if you haven’t had a good time, “Why do you seek to add more years, which would also pass but ill?”

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In the works of Lucretius, we find two reasons why we shouldn’t worry about death. If you have had a successful life, Lucretius tell us, there’s no reason to mind its end. And, if you haven’t had a good time, “Why do you seek to add more years, which would also pass but ill?”

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