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There may be significant things to learn about people by looking at what annoys them most.

Alain de Botton

The greatest difficulty of Travel is that one is forced to take oneself along.
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Along Difficult Force Greatest Oneself Travel
We often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
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Actual Blame Enough Foul Lose Often Temper Those
Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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Embarrassingly Learn never Oneself Some Stupid Thing
You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.
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Bash Daffodil Day Have Nice Normal Sunset
We need objects to remind us of the commitments we’ve made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we’re in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
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Carpet Commitment Freedom Impulsive Need Object Remind
We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
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Crowd Inside Newspaper Raed Stuff Tale Weird
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
How do the stems connect to the roots?’ ‘Where is the mist coming from?’ ‘Why does one tree seem darker than another?’ These questions are implicitly asked and answered in the process of sketching.
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Another Coming Connect Darker Mist Process Root Sketch Stem Tree
Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored.
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Achieve Band Faculty Job Make Narrow Personality Reduce Change Relentless Round
The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Complex Delusion Desert Hallucinate Horizon Need Oasis Prince Princess
At the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure: the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality.
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Basic Collision Every Frustration Heart Structure
The telephone becomes an instrument of torture in the demonic hands of a beloved who doesn’t call.
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Call Demonic Instrument Telephone Torture
It was no longer her absence that wounded me, but my growing indifference to it. Forgetting, however calming, was also a reminder of infidelity to what I had at one time held so dear.
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Absence Calm Forget Grow Identify Indifference Longer Reminder Time Wounded
All tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
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Fill Hire Humiliation People Private Publisher Tour Venue Wait
We envy only those whom we feel ourselves to be like; we envy only members of our reference group. There are few successes more unendurable than those of our close friends.
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Close Envy Feel Friend Group Member Ourselves Reference
If our lives are dominated by a search for happiness, then perhaps few activities reveal as much about the dynamics of this quest – in all its ardour and paradoxes – than our travels.
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Activity Dominate Dynamic Few Happiness Live Paradox Perhaps Quest Search

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