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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.

Alain de Botton

We envy only those whom we feel ourselves to be like; we envy only members of our reference group. There are few successes more unendurable than those of our close friends.
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Close Envy Feel Friend Group Member Ourselves Reference
Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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Anger End Fear Feel Most Receive Remember Weakness
A virtuous, ordinary life, striving for wisdom but never far from folly, is achievement enough.
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Archive Enough Ordinary Strive Virtuous Wisdom
An argument in a couple: 2 people attempting to introduce each other to important truths – by panicked shouting.
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Argument Attempt Couple Important Introduce Truth
It is not just nature that defies us. Human life is as overwhelming… If we spend time in it [the vast spaces of nature], they may help us to accept more graciously the great, unfathomable events that molest our lives and will inevitably return us to dust.
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Defies Human Life Nature Overwhelms Space Spend Time
We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who would otherwise look straight through us.
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Attention Fortune Greater Look People Reason Respect Seek Straight
Yet often, they know but just don’t care. So the task of serious journalism isn’t just to lay out truths. It is to make vital truths compelling to a big audience.
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Audience Big Compell Truth Vital
One of the unexpectedly important things that art can do for us is to teach us how to suffer more successfully.
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Important One Successful Suffer Teach Thing Unexpectedly
To be shown love is to feel ourselves the object of concern: our presence is noted, our name is registered, our views are listened to, our failings are treated with indulgence and our needs are ministered to. And under such care, we flourish.
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Concern Flourish Listen Love Note Object Ourselves Presence Register Shown View
When work is not going well, it’s useful to remember that our identities stretch beyond what is on the business card, that we were people long before we became workers – and will continue to be human once we have put our tools down forever.
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Being Business Card Go Remember Useful Well Work
Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.
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Essence Exist Existing Love Perhaps Properly Someone Speak Until
Without sex, we would be dangerously invulnerable. We might believe we were not ridiculous. We wouldn’t know rejection and humiliation so intimately.
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Believe Dangerous Immediate Invulnerable Reject Ridiculous Sex
How generous was it to offer gifts to people one knew would never accept them?
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Accept Generous Gift never Offer People
There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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Balance Everything Fight Life Such Thing Unbalance Work
We don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
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Anything Hope Learn Pain Properly Something Suffer
Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.
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Along End Get Idea Want Wnough Worse

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