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We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.

Alain de Botton

Good books put a finger on emotions that are deeply our own – but that we could never have described on our own.
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Anxiety Apprehend Book Continuous Dangerous Emotion Enjoy Finger Gloom Good
What we seek, at the deepest level, is inwardly to resemble, rather than physically to possess, the objects and places that touch us through their beauty.
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Beauty Deep External Inward Object Physical Possess Seek Tell Voice
In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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Belief Complex Evidence Man Oasis Palm Thirsty Tree Water
The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Affiche Appraisal Attention Congenital Determine Matter People Uncertainty
In their different ways, art and philosophy help us, in Schopenhauer’s words, to turn pain into knowledge.
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Art Different Help Knowledge Pain People Philosophy Way Word
These inventors were elevating the formulation of entrepreneurial ideas to the status of a visionary activity. Though forced to justify their efforts in the pragmatic language of venture capital, they were at heart utopian thinkers intent on transforming the world.
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Activity Elevate Entrepreneur Force Formulation Ide Intent Inventor Vision World
The fear of saying something stupid (which stupid people never have) has censored far more good ideas than bad ones.
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Censor Fear Idea People Say Something Stupid
Taking photographs can assuage the itch for possession sparked by the beauty of a place; our anxiety over losing a precious scene can decline with every click of the shutter.
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Anxiety Assuage Beauty Lose Photograph Place Possession Precious Sparkle Take
It’s hard loving those who don’t much like themselves: “If you’re so great, why would you think I’m so great.
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Great Hate Live Long Themselves
The need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Complex Delusion Desert Hallucinate Horizon Need Oasis Prince Princess
Envy: a confused, tangled guide to one’s own ambitions.
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Ambition Confuse Envy Tangle
Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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Behaviour Forgive Malice Require Sense Sign Suffer
Differ though we might with Christianity’s view of what precisely our souls need, it is hard to discredit the provocative underlying thesis.
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Community Differ might Need Precise Proactive Religious Soul Thesis
Every realistic picture represents a choice as to which features of reality should be given prominence; no painting ever captures the whole.
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Capture Choice Every Realistic Feature Given Paint Picture Prominence Reality Represent
As we write, so we build: to keep a record of what matters to us.
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Built Matter Record Write
Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Absolute Afford Desire Grow Relative Something Time Wealth

We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.

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We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.

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