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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.

Alain de Botton

Unnatural to expect that learning to be happy should be any easier than, say, learning to play the violin or require any less practice.
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Easier Except Happy Learn Less Play Practice Require Unnatural Violin
Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.
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Capacity Find Intimacy Rather Someone
Reputation matters so much only because people so seldom think for themselves.
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Matter Much Only People Reputation Seldom Themselves
Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.
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Along End Get Idea Want Wnough Worse
Politics is so difficult, it’s generally only people who aren’t quite up to the task who feel convinced they are.
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Convince Difficult Feel Generally Only People Politics Quite Task
Don’t despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don’t – surrender to events with hope.
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Come Control Despair Hope Suggest Surrender Total
As victims of hurt, we frequently don’t bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
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Absurd Ail Bring Day Frequent Hurt Light Look Victim Wound
Good books put a finger on emotions that are deeply our own – but that we could never have described on our own.
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Anxiety Apprehend Book Continuous Dangerous Emotion Enjoy Finger Gloom Good
Feeling lost, crazy and desperate belongs to a good life as much as optimism, certainty and reason.
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Belonging Desperate Feeling Lost Much Optimism Reason
What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.
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All tours are filled with humiliation. My publisher once hired a private jet to fly me to a venue where 1,000 people were waiting. It almost bankrupted him.
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Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored.
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Achieve Band Faculty Job Make Narrow Personality Reduce Change Relentless Round
There is always the option of being emotionally lazy, that is, of quoting.
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It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief turns out to be one of the more unusual prerequisites of architectural appreciation. We might, quite aside from all other requirements, need to be a little sad before buildings can properly touch us.
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Acquaintance Acquire Beautiful Dialogue Grief Pain Thing Turn More Value
There is a longing for a return to a time without the need for choices, free of the regret at the inevitable loss that all choice (however wonderful) has entailed.
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Choice Inevitable Long Loss Need Regret Return Time
What should worry us is not the number of people that oppose us, but how good their reasons are for doing so.
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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.

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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.

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