The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
ALAIN DE BOTTONSweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.
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A virtuous, ordinary life, striving for wisdom but never far from folly, is achievement enough.
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The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness”.
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Good sex isn’t just fun, it keeps us sane and happy. Having sex with someone makes us feel wanted, alive and potent.
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One’s doing well if age improves even slightly one’s capacity to hold on to that vital truism: “This too shall pass.
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Reputation matters so much only because people so seldom think for themselves.
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There are selections so acute that they come to define a place, with the result that we can no longer travel through that landscape without being reminded of what a great artist noticed there.
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The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others’ appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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If one felt successful, there’d be so little incentive to be successful.
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The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word “luxury.
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The media insists on taking what someone didn’t mean to say as being far closer to the truth than what they did.
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Although I don’t believe in God, Bach’s music shows me what a love of God must feel like.
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Writing isn’t a career choice. It’s self-medication that over time precipitates the madness it was meant to ward off.
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Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.
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Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books that were written because authors couldn’t find anyone to talk to.
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