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You have to be quite heavily invested in someone to do them the honour of telling them you’re annoyed with them.

Alain de Botton

We often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
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Actual Blame Enough Foul Lose Often Temper Those
It wasn’t only fanatics and drunkards who began conversations with strangers in public.
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Began Conversation Drunkard Fall Humiliate Public Stranger
The finest proof of our loyalty toward one another was our monstrous disloyalties towards everyone else.
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Another Disloyalty Everyone Finest Loyalty Monstrous Proof Toward
Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.
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Always Among Habitat Ignore Million People Turn
We need objects to remind us of the commitments we’ve made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we’re in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
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Carpet Commitment Freedom Impulsive Need Object Remind
Taking photographs can assuage the itch for possession sparked by the beauty of a place; our anxiety over losing a precious scene can decline with every click of the shutter.
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Anxiety Assuage Beauty Lose Photograph Place Possession Precious Sparkle Take
Literature deserves its prestige for one reason above all others – because it’s a tool to help us live and die with a little bit more wisdom, goodness, and sanity.
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Above Bit Deserve Help Literature Little Other Prestige Reason Tool
Our greatest furies spring from events which violate our sense of the ground of our existence.
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Event Existence Fury Great Ground Sense Spring Violate
Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
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Achievement Affection Begin Depend Mature
Yet often, they know but just don’t care. So the task of serious journalism isn’t just to lay out truths. It is to make vital truths compelling to a big audience.
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Audience Big Compell Truth Vital
We don’t really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped … We suffer, therefore we think.
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Anything Hope Learn Pain Properly Something Suffer
One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone as what is objectively healthy.
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Attract Fall Healthy Interest Object Rare Someone
In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water.
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Belief Complex Evidence Man Oasis Palm Thirsty Tree Water
Only by declaring a book completely finished can one start to see how much remains to be done on it.
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Book Completely Declare Done Finish Car Remain Start
The problem is if you really believe in a society where those who merit to get to the top, get to the top, you’ll also, by implication … believe in a society where those who deserve to get to the bottom also get to the bottom and stay there.
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Belief Implication Merit Problem Really Society Top
Paying tax should be framed as a glorious civic duty worthy of gratitude – not a punishment for making money.
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Civic Duty Frame Glorious Gratitude Make Money Pay Punishment Tax Worthy

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