Vengeance is not the point: change is.
BARBARA DEMING
BARBARA DEMING
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Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming There should be no censorship of mail.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one’s whole being in the determination: this must change.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Our task, of course, is to transmute the anger that is affliction into the anger that is determination to bring about change. I think, in fact, that one could give that as a definition of revolution.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist – if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming This is the heart of my argument: We can put more pressure on the antagonist for whom we show human concern.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Gandhi once declared that it was his wife who unwittingly taught him the effectiveness of nonviolence. Who better than women should know that battles can be won without resort to physical strength? Who better than we should know all the power that resides in noncooperation?
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming A great many of us must move from words to acts – from words of dissent to acts of disobedience.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming It is one thing to be able to state the price the antagonist paid, another to be able to count you own real gains.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming
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Aimee TeegardenAimee Teegarden I’d like to point out to people the divine in a musical language that transcends words. I want to speak to their souls.
John ColtraneJohn Coltrane They’re probably not any more complex or interesting than their good, law-abiding cousins, and I’d always tend to see things from their point of view.
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