Barbara Deming on balance
Barbara Deming34 quotes“We believe, in fact, that the one act of respect has little force unless matched by the other – in balance with it… The acting out of that dual respect I would name as precisely the source of our power.”
More from Barbara Deming
The longer we listen to one another – with real attention – the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming A liberation movement that is nonviolent sets the oppressor free as well as the oppressed.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming We cannot live without our lives
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming There should be no censorship of mail.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming there is clearly a kind of anger that is healthy. It is the concentration of one’s whole being in the determination: this must change.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming
Original quotes
From our community writers
Find someone who can hear you even when you’re silent.
Brad NeatonBrad Neaton Shadows follow me the way a vulture stalks death. One small step ahead.
Danielle MontgomeryDanielle Montgomery Hidden in the ashes, of a fallen building lays a child’s family photo, with whom he could never unite in life.
Heba NazarHeba Nazar To love something, someone. You don’t need to own them.
Sonika MSonika M When you miss someone, you realize their worth and your faith.
Aradhna S BirenAradhna S Biren The bed was the canvas, we were the art.
Jonny OxJonny Ox Every little part of your soul was made to shine.
Ashley PrzywolskiAshley Przywolski When in truth, it is the transparency that kills you. The pain of seeing through to something you can never quite touch.
Lang LeavLang Leav
Meet the writers
More on balance
Don’t give up! It’s not over. The universe is balanced. Every set-back bears with it the seeds of a come-back.
Steve MaraboliSteve Maraboli I know what it takes to balance budgets. I have done it my entire life.
Mitt RomneyMitt Romney I was in the world of business for 25 years. If you didn’t balance your budget, you went out of business.
Mitt RomneyMitt Romney April’s air stirs in Willow-leaves, a butterfly Floats and balances.
Matsuo BashoMatsuo Basho I had no balance in my life. I was this one person onstage and this person offstage, who really didn’t know much about living.
Elton JohnElton John A knowledge of the true age of the Earth and of the fossil record makes it impossible for any balanced intellect to believe in the literal truth of every part of the Bible in the way that fundamentalists do.
Francis CrickFrancis Crick If you can meet success and failure and treat them both as impostors, then you are a balanced man, my son.
Rudyard KiplingRudyard Kipling For the strength of the Pack is the Wolf, and the strength of the Wolf is the Pack.
Rudyard KiplingRudyard Kipling
