Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.
BARBARA DEMING
BARBARA DEMING
Barbara Deming
Barbara Deming34 quotes“Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.”
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After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible.
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Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming There should be no censorship of mail.
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Barbara DemingBarbara Deming The free man must be born before freedom can be won, and the brotherly man must be born before full brotherhood can be won. It will come into being only if we build it out of our very muscle and bone – by trying to act it out.
Barbara DemingBarbara Deming I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
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