He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
IRVIN D. YALOMOne reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control–to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic.
More Irvin D. Yalom Quotes
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Death anxiety is the mother of all religions, which, in one way or another, attempt to temper the anguish of our finitude.
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Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us.
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Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit.
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The creative members of an orthodoxy, any orthodoxy, ultimately outgrow their disciplines.
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Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living.
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Some day soon, perhaps in forty years, there will be no one alive who has ever known me. That’s when I will be truly dead – when I exist in no one’s memory.
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The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices.
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… sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past.
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This is what makes us human. But it comes with a costly price: the wound of mortality. Our existence is forever shadowed by the knowledge that we will grow, blossom, and, inevitably, diminish and die.
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Therapists need to have a long experience in personal therapy to see what it’s like to be on the other side of the couch and see what they find helpful or not helpful. And if possible, get into therapy at different stages of their life with different kinds of therapists just to sample a bit.
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The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else.
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The death anxiety of many people is fueled … by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential.
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…the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety.
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We project ourselves into the future through our children; we grow rich, famous, ever larger; we develop compulsive protective rituals; or we embrace an impregnable belief in an ultimate rescuer.
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Only the wounded healer can truly heal. (97)
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