“You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.”

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

Christianity is not about morality. It’s about reality.

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.

Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.

Being right can never compete with doing well.

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari – like they’re trying to land the trophy.

Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word ‘no.’ Love respects ‘no,’ control does not.

If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.

Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform, sends fuel to the brain.

To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.

When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.

One of the worst things you can die with is potential.

Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.

When I make a photograph I want it to be an altogether new object, complete and self-contained, whose basic condition is order (unlike the world of events and actions whose permanent condition is change and disorder).

Order, thou eye of action.

What is with waiters who don’t write anything down and memorize your order instead? Are you trying to impress me or something? If you were that smart you wouldn’t be a goddamn waiter in the first place.

When the journey’s over/There’ll be time enough to sleep.

Music’s exclusive function is to structure the flow of time and keep order in it.

Read in order to live.

Do not read, as children do, to amuse yourself, or like the ambitious, for the purpose of instruction. No, read in order to live.

Music is given to us specifically to make order of things, to move from an anarchic, individualistic state to a regulated, perfectly concious one, which alone insures vitality and durability.